Indeed, I certainly don’t mean to blame victims. What I was meaning was actually the opposite, along the lines of this idea:
I could convince myself that it’s the victims’ fault because I am lucky enough to have personal circumstances that make it easier to resist the temptation of these apps. It takes some reflection to recognize my privileges and circumstance and realize that there’s nothing inherent to me as a person that would make me immune, I just happen to have avoided it circumstantially.
I share this partly to give some insight into those sort of people who could fall into victim-blaming and to recognize and reflect on how shallow that victim-blaming mindset is.
Of course, if I were absolutely and complete immune to something like this for whatever strange reason, it would still be victim-blaming to assert that everyone else should just be like me. But besides recognizing this in general, I think it’s important for non-victims to acknowledge the ways that their situation is a matter of luck and circumstance in many regards. There’s value in recognizing that I could have been a victim if the cards just played out differently.
Of course, I’ve taken actions and worked to avoid being victimized, and I want to spread those tools and perspectives to help others avoid it as well. But that’s the nature of victim-blaming: just because the victim could have avoided the situation (not always the case, but often is true) doesn’t mean they are at fault. The abuser is the party that is truly at fault.